1. If there is one rhetoric that you need to delete from your head completely, it is:
What will others think?
Delete it now. Absolutely everyone - friends, family, bosses, colleagues, strangers.
It is easier to predict or even control what GOD will think of you when you die, but if there is one thing that is absolutely and utterly beyond your control it is the opinions of others.
Delete that inner dialogue NOW.
Your foolishness and shyness and fear will prevent you from meeting new people or doing cool things that due to their own fear are shying away from you. Erase your fear and go to them. Just as Rumi said: What you are seeking is seeking you. And again, just as he pointed out, You don't have to find love, you have to find the barriers inside you that prevent you from finding love.
2. Fight the design of the media that inadvertently attracts you to "beautiful" people. Train your mind to surpass that instinct and go to the core, the soul as soon as possible.
Look beyond the outer, the obvious, the material - all that is immaterial. As Einstein said, all that can be counted, doesn't always count and what counts, can't always be counted.
Develop the skill of immediately noticing the soul than the contours of a person's body.
That also includes keeping your FB profile clear of profile picture updates and such superficial shit. Maintain a page that talks about your dreams, your opinions and your interests.
Others will likewise like you for the love and energy you radiate, not your looks. Keep them clean, tidy and fit, but stop there. If you must make something up, make up your energy and gratitude. Leave your face clear.
3. Shoot for world class. Shoot for excellence. Don't settle for mediocre. World class results require world class routines, world class thoughts, world class discipline, grace, energy.
4. Find the others, but not by going into their path. Find them in your own path. Create your path. Find the shortest path to reach another. And that path usually is the direct personal path. Stop relying on others to introduce, connect, recommend you or others. Go direct. Make your own independent connection and build on it. Feed your relationship the diet of positivity, appreciation and gratitude.
Appreciate the effort that heavens have put into bringing you into the same room as others, now think about what do you want to do about it.
5. You can either be shy or be great. You decide. Do the things that scare you - do them daily, do them often. Life is better than you can imagine, your fears prevent you from seeing the glory of it all. Do not hesitate to compliment. Do it quick and mean it. Learn to be genuinely happy for others.
6. Be ambivalent. Khushi mein khush mat ho, gham mein dukhi mat ho. Anyone can say nice things to nice people. Anyone can say bad things to nice people, but the true test of your humanity and spiritual development will be when you can look into the eye of your enemy and say: "Khosh-hallam az ashanaiye-shoma" and mean every word of it. It is indeed a pleasure to have an acquaintance of the devil - only the lucky ones get to know the devil and learn from him. Anyone can pass by a God and not give a damn. But only a few can learn from the devil.
7. Do not lower your game. Don't get stuck in the mud other people throw at you or at others. Also, as a general rule - make 90% of your conversation about the "You" - the other person and only "10%" of it about "Me" - that is yourself. Make 0% of it about "Him/Her" - some other person who is not a part of the talk.
8. Keep your stories ready.
9. When you meet a talented person: Step 1: Compliment them. In a blink of an eye. No second thoughts, not ifs and buts. Compliment people!! Step 2: Thank God for introducing you to them. He worked very hard to make this happen. Step 3: Quickly pick up what you can learn from them. And just as quickly adapt it. Never ever be jealous of other people's talents. They have not been handed a light to blow out your fire. They have been handed a light to help fuel your fire when the winds are strong and you need some help. Blowing up their light out of your own jealousy makes the world a darker place. Instead of being jealous of people, questioning their purpose, or impeding their way, brighten your own light, sharpen your own axe and focus on your purpose in life.
10. Purpose is the thing that breathes air in you. It is not the thing that you get praised for. It maybe the thing you get most harshly criticized for. But you still stick with it, because the choice in life will not be should I do it whether I am praised or not, but should I continue living if I dont get to do it.
11. Learn to identify the purpose of others in life - it will most likely not be to praise you or support you, it'll be to show the way. You will have to walk it alone.
What will others think?
Delete it now. Absolutely everyone - friends, family, bosses, colleagues, strangers.
It is easier to predict or even control what GOD will think of you when you die, but if there is one thing that is absolutely and utterly beyond your control it is the opinions of others.
Delete that inner dialogue NOW.
Your foolishness and shyness and fear will prevent you from meeting new people or doing cool things that due to their own fear are shying away from you. Erase your fear and go to them. Just as Rumi said: What you are seeking is seeking you. And again, just as he pointed out, You don't have to find love, you have to find the barriers inside you that prevent you from finding love.
2. Fight the design of the media that inadvertently attracts you to "beautiful" people. Train your mind to surpass that instinct and go to the core, the soul as soon as possible.
Look beyond the outer, the obvious, the material - all that is immaterial. As Einstein said, all that can be counted, doesn't always count and what counts, can't always be counted.
Develop the skill of immediately noticing the soul than the contours of a person's body.
That also includes keeping your FB profile clear of profile picture updates and such superficial shit. Maintain a page that talks about your dreams, your opinions and your interests.
Others will likewise like you for the love and energy you radiate, not your looks. Keep them clean, tidy and fit, but stop there. If you must make something up, make up your energy and gratitude. Leave your face clear.
3. Shoot for world class. Shoot for excellence. Don't settle for mediocre. World class results require world class routines, world class thoughts, world class discipline, grace, energy.
4. Find the others, but not by going into their path. Find them in your own path. Create your path. Find the shortest path to reach another. And that path usually is the direct personal path. Stop relying on others to introduce, connect, recommend you or others. Go direct. Make your own independent connection and build on it. Feed your relationship the diet of positivity, appreciation and gratitude.
Appreciate the effort that heavens have put into bringing you into the same room as others, now think about what do you want to do about it.
5. You can either be shy or be great. You decide. Do the things that scare you - do them daily, do them often. Life is better than you can imagine, your fears prevent you from seeing the glory of it all. Do not hesitate to compliment. Do it quick and mean it. Learn to be genuinely happy for others.
6. Be ambivalent. Khushi mein khush mat ho, gham mein dukhi mat ho. Anyone can say nice things to nice people. Anyone can say bad things to nice people, but the true test of your humanity and spiritual development will be when you can look into the eye of your enemy and say: "Khosh-hallam az ashanaiye-shoma" and mean every word of it. It is indeed a pleasure to have an acquaintance of the devil - only the lucky ones get to know the devil and learn from him. Anyone can pass by a God and not give a damn. But only a few can learn from the devil.
7. Do not lower your game. Don't get stuck in the mud other people throw at you or at others. Also, as a general rule - make 90% of your conversation about the "You" - the other person and only "10%" of it about "Me" - that is yourself. Make 0% of it about "Him/Her" - some other person who is not a part of the talk.
8. Keep your stories ready.
9. When you meet a talented person: Step 1: Compliment them. In a blink of an eye. No second thoughts, not ifs and buts. Compliment people!! Step 2: Thank God for introducing you to them. He worked very hard to make this happen. Step 3: Quickly pick up what you can learn from them. And just as quickly adapt it. Never ever be jealous of other people's talents. They have not been handed a light to blow out your fire. They have been handed a light to help fuel your fire when the winds are strong and you need some help. Blowing up their light out of your own jealousy makes the world a darker place. Instead of being jealous of people, questioning their purpose, or impeding their way, brighten your own light, sharpen your own axe and focus on your purpose in life.
10. Purpose is the thing that breathes air in you. It is not the thing that you get praised for. It maybe the thing you get most harshly criticized for. But you still stick with it, because the choice in life will not be should I do it whether I am praised or not, but should I continue living if I dont get to do it.
11. Learn to identify the purpose of others in life - it will most likely not be to praise you or support you, it'll be to show the way. You will have to walk it alone.
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